When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I was of course over the moon . That was five years ago now and I can’t believe how much has changed since then. I used to be a career woman, I loved my own space, loved to read and relax, liked to buy nice things. My priorities have become rather different since then.
I had an idea of the type of mummy I would be and I have to say that it was nothing like the mummy that I am. I never thought for a minute that I would use cloth nappies on my children (let alone end up starting a business around them!), I didn’t really think I would breastfeed and I didn’t imagine for one minute that I would resign from my job at a local hospice in order to be a stay at home mum.
When my baby arrived my grand plan went out the window. She looked up at me for the first time, our eyes met and everything else just faded into insignificance. I have become a different person. Some things I think have changed for the better. I have changed my outlook on life, I have broadened my horizons, learnt new things, met new people. I have learnt how to love unconditionally even when exhausted through lack of sleep and sore nipples.
Some things have changed for the worse. I have very little relaxation time, we have no money, I have less patience… I’m not the perfect mummy that I wanted to be but then, who is? My relationships have changed. Visits with old friends are few and far between and I have made new friends through my children. I now have to share my parents with two demanding children who will always be centre of attention and that’s just as it should be. My husband and I have very rare nights out and if we do we are usually home before 10pm.
So if anyone tells you that becoming a parent won’t change you, don’t believe a word of it. If you do, you’ll be in for a big surprise. How has becoming a parent changed you? Or do you feel that you have not changed at all?